Tuesday, June 25, 2013

The Heat is On

What I have been waiting for has finally arrived in Roma, the heart is on! I thought it would never get beach weather appropriate here  but  where the locals were right. When the heat comes, it burns.  Just think of Florida humid weather with Las Vegas heat and put them together.  This makes it very unpleasant to walk throughout the city. I don't know how the tourists manage to make it here every summer, like having a heat stroke is the best time of year to go see some sights.  But not to far from the city center, through a metro and a 30 minute train ride you can arrive at Ostia Lido beach  and be a beach bum like myself.



 When first arriving to the beach, I was a bit confused and frustrated. There was no way of entering the beach. There are several beach clubs and storage facilities that require a fee. I walked up and down and thought I'm here but I can't get to the freakin beach. I found a restaurant and beach access which required a fee but at this point I didn't mind. I just wanted to get my toes in the sand. 4 Euros will get you on the sand and a clean restroom facility. I chose the beach next to the free pier where on calm ocean days they also have two soccer nets out in the water for the football fanatics.  The paid beaches are kept clean and peace and quiet is here. The lifeguards swoosh away the bangladesh self entrepreneurs selling coconuts or bracelets and watch after any stragglers trying to sneak in to the private beach. I felt safe leaving behind a towel and cooler but I would not recommend leaving much more than that alone.



 There are nice storage facilities where old people store their chairs, floaties for grandchildren and sit outside playing cards enjoying the good life. I left like I was back in the 70s. There is even a small football/soccer field to play in each private beach. Its quite nice compared to the public beach I found taking a long stroll along the ocean. Here, the restrooms are potter potties, yuck and the beach is packed. Sure it makes for good eye candy but unlike my beach at home, I like to be away from as many people as possible since getting peace and quiet in the city is impossible. 


One thing I don't understand about the Italian beach culture is the need to still wear banana hammocks aka speedos especially the young chaps. Ok the old man you can't change their ways but the young tall fit men, I mean come on give a girl a little mystery of what may come. They are even daring to wear  a white speedo. No matter what, a speedo will never be sexier than a far too lowered board shorts showing those abs and hip flexors. Yum!  I can't wait to see that when I get back home.  But still the italians insist on their macho ways thinking let me bend over or lift my leg where a hairy ball just might peak or slip out. Now imagine a 60-70 year old man....now that's sexy Italia!


Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder


Distance really puts things in perspective. I finished posting pictures on my personal page of adventures me and my boyfriend had when he visited me in Italy. But here is the thing, social media, TV, our constant need to pry and look into people's lives makes it seem everyone is having a fantastic life. I posted pictures of our trip, well when we were together. No one who didn't know wouldn't believe that when posting those pictures I was crying inside because that man was no longer mine. In reality, he was never mine. 


I spent two years in denial and hurting myself because well like everyone else I have mommy and daddy issues. I fight so hard to make relationships work because I have everything in the world I could want but the one thing, someone to love, has always been missing or incomplete in my life. The distance, as much as he would like to blame it, was not the reason for our falling out. I left behind my boyfriend because there was an end of a tunnel, a time stamp for my return and he gave me his blessing to go. I gave the option to take a break but he said he wanted to keep it going.  Less than a month in, he was already trying to score dates and flirting with other women discussing our relationship and God only knows the truth. I was betrayed, humiliated and disrespected from the person who gave me his blessing to go. But the fact is, that this wasn't the first time I was betrayed by this man. But it was going to be one of the last times.

What hurts the most is my denial and the constant excuses I told myself for his behavior over the past two years. I have done this before, blaming myself for the lies and actions of a man and here I was again, crying how did I let this happen to me again. He told me his first lie on our very first date, how his car was in the shop because he owed money that wasn't really owed. I learned couple weeks later he never had a car. Such a stupid lie but still on our first date he lied. He said he wasn't a liar because he is terrible at lying. Well that has some truth to it, because he is a terrible liar.  All the lies he told were unnecessary and assumptions that I would be mad if the truth would be told. One of the biggest cycles of fights is "I'm mad because you lied."  We continued to date despite his lies and several months into the relationship, in which he WANTED the relationship in the first place, I caught him on dating websites and flirting with more women than I can count on social media. When I mean flirting, I mean things that would make you sick to your stomach flirting.  I cried for the first time in the relationship and he lied once again but gave me confidence with actions to repair the damage he had done. I said to myself prior to any relationship that if a man betrayed me I would walk away because once it has been done history tends to repeat itself. But here I was making an excuse for his actions because he said he didn't "know" where we stood, yet we saw each other several days of the week consistently for over five months. But I blamed myself thinking maybe I didn't spell it out for him.  Three months later when we had a week of a rut, he betrayed me again. This excuse was "we were fighting" and in some sick way I forgave him because he didn't know where the relationship was going to go because we were "fighting."

Now I am a smart woman but I can be so stupid when it comes to my heart. Time went on and there were several fantastic moments in our relationship but I didn't know then that the damage was done. My frustration with him grew, with every lie, every disrespectful move. He would constantly curse, arrive late all the time,  make me wait for him when I picked him up because like I said, he didn't have a car. Hell, he couldn't drive! My first birthday came around and Christmas and basically gave me nothing. I eventually got a bike a week later after another discussion about his selfishness and thoughtless self.  I planned romantic dinners, Valentine's day and exciting dates to keep a relationship alive. I reminded him to call family and forgive those who have hurt him. I tried to become one family, inviting him to mine but we were always distant from his.   I invited him to my friends and we never saw any of his. I helped him manage his life affairs, bills, dog and debt. I wanted to see him grow into a full adult because I saw beneath the eyes a man I could love instead of seeing that I should be in love for the man he is now. But how could I accept a boy because there was no man in front of me.

I am proud of myself for who I am today. I have never lied to him and had always tried my best to be a person that I would want to date. Before the year ended last year, my birthday and Christmas came up. I had family in town and I was happy. The man I was with told me he loved me. Then five days later fails to get me anything for my birthday, sleeps in while I set up for my birthday with the heavy loads. Several days later before New Years,  I almost left him because once again his lies turned on him crashing down on him with his life turning upside down. I stuck it through, standing by him, not gracefully at times but I was there. He said he "woke up" because he learned a hard lesson of life. I believed him once again. We are at times so fixated to believe that we forget that the most important part of believe is the LIE in between we tell ourselves.  I left to go to Roma a month later. I asked to repair the relationship before I left but he had no motivation to do so, as I drove him around helping him build his new home hoping for the best.

So month into our long distance relationship he is searching for women, flirting, lying and betraying me because we were "fighting." We fought constantly because his selfish ways only had himself in mind while I was fighting for us, he was not. He forgot to call stated he was busy and I waited up late just to hear his voice while he slept in and forgot to call.   While I reached out to God, he reached out to other women. I humiliated myself  and became weak again to someone who didn't love me the right way.  He managed to buy a ticket and take a trip to visit me to see where the relationship was. I just wanted to see him so I too could see how I would feel.  The day he arrived we both felt like the first few weeks of our relationship, butterflies and all. The following morning I saw a message to him from a female " I thought you were over her, so now you're there and what going to break up with her when she gets back." I felt a sudden calmness to me which alarmed him when he viewed what I have viewed. I was going to give him a great birthday, a memorable trip and we could say our good byes. I was out of tears, my soul was crushed and my heart couldn't beat anymore for this man. He cried for the first time to me and said how he felt about seeing me again and cannot imagine life without me. Once again, I forgave him. I gave him the best birthday he had, we had laughs, dinners and an unforgettably time with each other but his return to the States brought him back to who he really was within a week. A person I would never want to be.

Roller coasters are suppose to thrill,  which one heart stops or skips a beat. Roller coasters in relationships are anything but that. And I had my last ride over a week ago. I do not regret living in Roma because the distance between me and the other side has given me the view I have always wanted. That there is something better for me out there. For the first time in my life, I believe I am a good person. God brought me a man I could believe in when I lost all hope in men. I believed in God again because of him because the small moments of love he showed me and the kindness he brought to me told me it gets better and I am close to finding something real. I though God gave me him so I can finally have trust in someone, to give the love I have to someone who will love me back.  And he lied and betrayed me as I was loyal and honest. But I still believe in God even though he could have broken my spirit, because I now know God puts people in our lives to give us a lesson, to see something in ourselves we didn't see before. God put him in my life to teach me a lesson and I was his.   Women tend to forget what most men know, is that there is plenty of fish in the sea and as my journey almost comes to an end, I will be crossing the Atlantic Ocean once again looking down at the world beneath me and seeing all the fish in the sea.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Forza Roma!

On a particular Sunday, I was offered to go to a football game aka soccer for the Americanos. Game is AC Roma vs. Napoli.  You can purchase tickets at particular tobacco shops. One must bring a passport because apparently if you're an Italian you couldn't purchase the particular tickets me and my friends were getting. Odd yes but that will be explained later.

So the stadium is quite a journey to get to. Metro and tram later you arrive. You can just follow the ugly FSU like colors, red and goldish. Apparently, Italia, in the one thing they want to follow the rules by is of course the football games. They take this shit seriously.  When you purchase a ticket, they print your name on it, which they check at the gate not once but twice. So sneaking in booze isn't that difficult but it takes a technique of stern face and a quick step pass the guards. Got through the first gate, awesome. But wait, there is ANOTHER gate where they check your ticket again right before entering the stadium and there of course a woman stops to check my bag, as I rushed to hide the bottles in my bag as they wanted to check my passport and ticket AGAIN but luckily my two friends slid right by as I was the decoy getting caught.











So entering the stadium, it isn't as full as expected but the Italians HERE like to have some organization. The visiting team is out in the nosebleeders separated from any nearby Romans. I noticed that me and my friends were placed in almost the gringos section as my surroundings were filled with Americans and other Eurotrash (jk) and a small group of calm italians.   The center field sections seem to have families and nonnos as no one stood the whole time or any flags waving.
                                                             
    


The two goal sections were filled with Italian men who had too much to drink and entirely oversized flags who would piss off the typical American Football fan from obstructing his view. The scoreboard only shows that, the scoreboard so don't take your eye off the ball or you might miss the one and only goal. 





Lucky for me, Roma won and I got to hear Grazie Roma song the stadium sings.  I also got to see a storm of police army surrounding the premises and especially surrounding the Napoli fans.  It was like a riot was going to start but unlucky me no riot started. I always like a good fight between drunken men and police with mase. 


Sunday, May 12, 2013

Napoli & Capri


Watch out in Napoli! Was the warnings I got from friends in Roma. Napoli or Naples is rumored to be a dangerous place because of its "Mafia" presence and thieves but there is surely more gypsies, thieves and homeless in Roma.  Though, there is a lot more of the "typical stereotypical" italians with the babada di booti. Sat down on a tram heading to the hostel and two old italians get in a heated conversations with vaffanculo hand gestures.  Walking along the streets italians stare and ciao bella me. Just imagine Napoli with groups of 3-5 men in corners of streets arguing or admiring the foreigners that walk by.  Where are all the women in the Napoli?


At first arriving from the train station, Napoli doesn't look much with its dirty grey streets and construction sites. But if you pass by all this, there are colorful old buildings and pedestrian street along the shore and a 40 minute ferry ride to beautiful Capri. More on that later. There are funicolari (funicular carts) to get you the steep hills of Napoli where you can get a breathtaking view of Napoli by the Castle and Monk Museum.





If you have the time and the dinero, take a day trip to beautiful Capri. The trip 20 euros one way will take to you on a rollercoaster ride of the sea. I mean this boat that fits around 250 people seated, really takes off flying in the air as it hits the waves and the guests' stomach drops and you arrive to the port of Capri in approximately 40 minutes because of the 50knots fire power this boat has.  I observed my escape plan if the captain was to ever say abandon ship, then again we are in Italy and I am sure he would be the first to jump off without any warning of "abandon ship."  Too far?




Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Silenzio! No foto!

Vatican. A country on its own and enough money to have its own guards, post office and much more. Take a visit to the Vatican Museums and you'll be 16Euros poorer than you were before, unless you just happen to be visiting the last Sunday of the month when its free and triple the amount of people.  Also NOT recommended is the tour guides outside by the Vatican who try to convince the poor uninformed tourists to go with their group because there's this miraculous long 2 hour wait to get in the museum. Right, took me 2 minutes to buy my ticket and walk in while the groups awaited outside for the guides to hustle more tourists to get more bang for their buck and then you have to wait inside while they manage to get you the tickets AND THEN walk like a herd of cows through the museum while some guy blabs about God knows what about art you just don't give a crap or remember until you get to the Sistine Chapel, all the while you fill up your camera with endless photos of art you won't remember but hey you got 200 + photos of the Vatican museum. 




 After I paid 16 euros because the mean lady at the booth would not give me a student discount because apparently the Church is lacking money from all the gold and riches in the church that they can't spare any cost, I walk through the several museums. We know what we come for, the Sistine Chapel yet they  force visitors, who at this point have seen way too many Renaissance paintings and enough naked men sculptures around Italy, who just want to see the dang Sistine Chapel already have to take a 1.5 hour tour of the seemingly endless portraits and egoist sculptures.  Sure you're allowed to take photos through the museum of famous artists and sculptures, flash and everything but WAIT right before you enter the Chapel, the Vatican Police aka photo Nazis scream at you NO FOTO and SILENZIO. Yeah sure, NOW I can't take million of photos in the one dang place I want to. I mean what's the logic in that. I walk through the whole museum pay 16 euros, most expensive museum and then you tell me the one place I want to take photos I can't, even if I don't have a flash. I was in the art world, the work will not be damaged by some digital camera or iPhone. Yet still just try to even lift your camera and you get NO FOTOOOOO! Also they state this is a "scared place" so dress appropriately and be quiet. But yet they don't check what we're wearing through the whole museum until the chapel. And there's nothing sacred of charging 16 euros a head and filling a chapel with 100 plus people, who come from all different races and religions speaking in their own language and possibling getting into a fight as a Muslim couple did near me. Trying to silence over 100 people in a small chapel who are admiring the work of Michelangelo and his mockery to the church of gay men kissing in the corner. Take a look on the right side of the fresco Judgment day. Its one big fat orgy of gay men. Scared. Right!
P.S. I snuck all these photos, because if I'm going to pay 16 euros I need to take some dang photos so when my butt gets too old and I can't remember this day, I at least have some visual memories. Take you photos at the end after enjoying the work, because if then you get kicked out at least you got some kiss ass "illegal" photos. 

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Winter to Spring, the Happiness You Bring

Have you ever felt a high? I mean of course a natural high on life I am referring to. I did again today. And of course some readers are thinking I might be high writing this but I can assure you I am not. Its one of the greatest feelings oneself can have but not many experience it. I was in a complete natural high on life today floating or perhaps wondering around a park in Roma, happy as can be. I was alone. My happiness had nothing to do with the money I have, my material things or my relationships but that I was happy with myself. Happy of the blessing I have been given by God. Happy of my life.

After couple of hours wondering around the park on my natural high, I laid down on the grass and finished a book I was reading. For the first time in a long time, I was reading something other than a law book and I couldn't put it down. I laid down, rolled my shirt up to get some rays on my back and finished my book. I viewed the world around me and thought that so many people will never get to experience living in a foreign country where they know no one or the language and make friends, learn to get by and experience just a simple day in the park. I was pleased with myself that fear has never stopped me from experiencing life. Its the fear that drives me to move out of state or voice my opinion against a boss or move around the ocean.
 I observed dogs chasing each other and children playing ball and adults drinking and chatting. No one had a care in the world and neither did I. Witnessing a grandmother helping children fly a kite, I began to reminisce the times I have flown a kite as a small child and thought how much fun I had flying that kite. Sometimes you forget the simple things in life and finding pleasure in the simplicity. I was having the time of my life with myself wondering the park, smiling at children and enjoying my own company alone with my thoughts.  Maybe its my dominant personality or liking it my way, but some of my best simple memories are when I was alone, traveling alone, spending an entire day alone in my house dancing with my dog and singing off tune to songs that once played too many times on the radio. Maybe because I found a way to just be happy with myself. I learned to be truly independent that my happiness has nothing to do with the man in my life or not in my life or my friends or family. I do forget this lesson I learned from time to time but when I am truly being one with myself and my natural high kicks in. I feel I can do anything in the world, change the world.   So I thank myself today for giving myself the opportunity to enjoy a simple day in a not so simple city Roma and thank God for the sun that has finally shown its face in Italy, the trees that sang a soft tune as the leaves moved and the free entertainment and italian lessons provided by the children of Roma. 

~ Visited Villa Doria Pamphili

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Buona Pasqua with The Biggest Celebrity on Earth

Italy celebrates Easter in a big way. They spend 300 euros on a feast for Sunday lunch and take 2-3 days just to recoup from celebrating Jesus'  resurrection. Also, in Italy and many European countries, Easter Monday or Pasquetta is national holiday where most schools and shops are closed. Lucky for me my teachers really used this holiday, as most Italians do, and took the whole week off.

My sister came and visited me during the most important religious holiday Easter and I decided to get free tickets to the Easter mass with the new Pope Francis in St. Peter's square. I obtained my tickets through a Catholic College that has a satellite campus here in Italy. I am grateful for the young 'sister' who gave me the inside tip of what to expect on this day.

Tips for large mass held in the Square: First the joker looking costume guys Swiss guards hand out pamphlets for the Easter service. There are english translations inside and they have one reading in italian, one in spanish and one in english and throw in some german and french in there. There are four entrances to get inside. The two side entrances have metal detectors and x-ray scanner which make the lines go slower but they are closer to the front. The 2 entrances towards the center but in the back have no detectors or scanners but longer lines as most amateurs come through that entrance.  The best entrances is the left side entrance as most don't take the time to go to this entrance but it was well worth it. The lines are not organized, not controlled you are squeezed into from have a 10 person wide lane into one. Believe me be comfortable with the people around you.  Luckily we had a man nearby who wasn't afraid to tell people to get back in the line when they tried to skip, not even NUNS. Yup even made the nuns get back. No shame but hey we all waited in line since 7/7:30am. Yes to get to a 10:15 mass one must be in line at 7am to get a close view of the Pope.

As you enter St. Peter's, people sprint to the front. I mean people literally run to the front to hurry up and wait for 2 hours. Its an incredible scene to watch such faithful followers hall butt to get a glimpse of the Pope. So as I entered the Square I too ran threw the maze to get a good standing "seat" for mass.  Best "seats" aka standing room is by the railings, luckily my long legs landed me a great "seat" on the center railing towards the front.  So we wait, we packed sandwiches, ate, talked to fellow americans, germans and latinos until Mass started.  And, if you're along the railing you actually get to receive Holy Communion by the Priests, which we blessfully did. I have tried to live in Roma on a higher level of spirituality and hope in faith and attending the Mass here can help anymore in their doubts in Christ.

It was an unforgettable experience to celebrate Easter in the Catholic Center. If you don't know, the Pope is the biggest celebrity on the planet. I am convinced. From plus 50,000 people all to stand in the heat or rain or cold outside, some who cannot even enter the Square but crowd the streets just to get a glimpse of the Pope, to where millions go and see the Pope while he visits their country in their hometown, no celebrity is ever valued as much as the Pope. At the end of the mass, the Pope got into his "Popemobile" and drove around the crowds. Just writing that brings a smile to my face because I forever have the images in my head of the crowds cheering Papa, Papa, Papa!!! The Pope stopped and kissed a baby and at another point picked up a small child who was mentally handicapped, who had my sister and several other in tears.  Jesus has risen from the dead and a small part of my faith has grown a little stronger be a presence of something higher than I can imagine. Buona Pasqua.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Tivoli: Because I Want to Live Like a Roman god

Spent a day last week exploring the city of Tivoli, a region outside center of Rome that takes a 30 minute train ride to a hilltop town. We had a group going with us and decided to meet at a certain hour by the train station. I was already 20 minutes late, had no italian phone and no means to reach anyone. I arrived at the train and saw none of my friends. I was worried they had already left. I walked up and down the entire train to see if they were seated. No luck. I have no wifi and no idea but I was hopeful. Train is blowing and no sign of familiar faces but wait... I hear frantic footsteps and heavy breathing and look down the tunnel and see the group running yelling wait!

Thankfully we all met and headed to Tivoli to explore the Villas of D'Este and Adriana. It quite a beauitful peaceful town. We followed the crowd off the train as we did not know where the villas were located or even which direction to walk to the city center. With my direction skills we got to Villa D'Este in no time. This Villa is known for its beautiful fountains. It was commissioned for a summer palace of... who cares some old Roman rich man/king. 



There is a long row of fountains that is called Le Cento Fontane, the hundred fountains, as you can see here as me, Captain obvious points out is a street of a 100 fountains. At the top of the hill is a large water organ fountain, where the water creates music through the pressure of fountains. Quite impressive I must say. 



After a few hours at Villa D'Este, we decided to grab a bite to eat. We looked at several restaurants menus, got hassled by restaurant owners to eat at "the best place" in Tivoli or Italy for that matter, because you know how easy it is to screw up pasta or pizza and finally decided on a place. But first we had to experience a real aggressive Italian who would take no for answer to eat at his overpriced restaurant. He would not stop blabbering in italian to me about eating at his place that I finally said Basta! (stop it) and walked away. He then proceeding to follow us only after telling be vaffancculo (fuck off) and gave us the evil eyes. My French friends decided to tease him and I had an imagine he would get mafiaoso on us at the dinner table outside, true Soprano style. 




There was no time to visit the other Villa (Adriana) as the sun was setting so we agreed to a hike up the mountains near the Train station. The group split up a bit up the mountain as I decided to follow the gringo, Frenchies and Belgium up the off beaten path. Bad idea, as we had no hiking shoes, the hill was steep and there was rocks to climb. I climbed almost to the top but as I looked down I couldn't see how I would descend except for tumble and roll. I scooted down with a friend to a familiar path and ran into our Chilean amigos. They continued on the marked path all the way up to the top of the mountain. Damn me for following the gringo on the dangerous path and not the Incas who were smart to follow the red and white paint marked on rocks. 

Apparently horses trail up the mountain as I never saw so much horse shit everywhere that likely all of us stepped on because it was nearly impossible not to but we all made it to the top of the mountain where a steel cross was implanted. The sights were unforgettable, we saw a beautiful sunset, took in the fresh air or horse shit and headed back to good ol' Roma. 


Friday, March 15, 2013

God Bless America

Being in Roma has its benefits because of its central location. I have plans to travel to countries most dream of going, but I also plan on traveling within my current homeland. I tried to book tickets online for trains to several popular destinations. The website trenitalia is pretty simple as there is a link to translate into English. But you have to be on top of your game to score a good price. It's worse then booking planes. If you know when and where your going, book 3 months in advance because if you don't you'll be spending 50 euros instead of 9. So I tried my attempts online. This country isn't really built online as the US or other countries are. My attempts failed has a error message in Italian appeared "can't process your request." WTF! I booked hotels/hostels on American sites, use the credit card all through Italy but booking a train ticket, in my best Italian accent, "forget getta about it."

So I went to the train stations as I hear you can book through the vending ticket booths. 5 minutes there, I was bombarded by foreigners, beggars, gypsies and sketches. I kept my bag tight close to me, my attitude on my face and viewed screens that warned "watch for pick pocketers." I got so annoyed I left to come back with only my card and keys, as I was with several electronics and a wallet. Third try back... You need a pin for your credit card. WTF! Who knows that? I walk back get my debit, withdraw cash and head back for a fourth attempt to get my tickets.

Success! But only with two trips. Third time was not a charm as it stated "system not responsive. " I tried several machines, and didn't understand. I cursed under my breath. I attempted to go to the information booth. WTF! You have to get a number and approximately wait 40-50 minutes as there is a few dozen others who can't book their tickets, or who knows what problems they are also having. My thoughts, God Bless America that my home is there because this shit is cray! Nothing is simple here or explained in the right manner. I tried other machines because my time is valuable, time is money, as most Americans think. Finally success but only through the help of a gypsy. My problem wasn't that the system was unresponsive. It was because I was not to choose the seats on specific trains. What a simple solution of not giving the option of choosing a seat could save a dozen of people to not wait for the information booth for such a SIMPLE problem. A simple message of do not choose your seats instead of system not responsive would suffice. But like I said WTF. The gypsy requested money but I like to change the world one person at time. One should want to help someone without asking for anything return. Four attempts and five tickets later, my trips are booked. But all in all, Italy should hire the gypsies to explain the machines so the average costumer gets in and out of the terminal, the gypsies are paid and I don't think that America is the greatest country on earth to live, because I was raised I want something and I want is done yesterday, efficiently and economically.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Ostia Antica: A Civilized Past

Thirty minute metro/train ride away from Piramide, Roma takes you back to the 7th century BC in a large town of Ostia Antica. This archeological site is a playground/maze. It was a beautiful day to visit Ostia, a Saturday ago and I invited some friends along. You meet so many people from different cultures here and really get a practice at other languages.  At the end of the day after visiting Ostia, I was speaking something in between Spanitaliaenglish and didn't know what language I was speaking in the end. I met several friends from Chile, Belgium, France some Americans and we all try to practice our Italian.
You can only imagine a night out with us.

Ostia was truly a unique place to see. It starts off as a long road that grows bigger to what once was a Port city. It stated that over 1000 people once lived in this city and I could definitely see it. Surely you're thinking only 1000 but this is B.efore C.hrist time we're talking.  There were large squares still intact and several commercial areas. It definitely had a feel for a Walking Dead Episode as the area is so large that you don't pass by many visitors. 




There is a large amphitheater where I'm sure once fat ladies sang Opera. I tried to imagine what life would be back in those times. No internet, no tv, no telephone, no books, no connection from the outside world.  The people of Ostia would have laughed at the idea of some web universe where we all are connected by a touch of a button. Hell they thought the world was still flat back then. 


Currently, I don't have a working cell phone so I too was disconnected with the outside world and quite enjoyed it. I have been delaying getting an Italian number because I enjoy leaving my apartment and hopefully meeting at the proper place and time with friends.  Having drinks and dinner without the use of facebook or the web. Bit of excitement the unknown, if your friends left you because you arrived to late or you don't know where the restaurant is because no two streets are alike, so you find yourself wondering the streets of Roma, asking for directions to other people who also don't know the street you are mentioning and they're ITALIAN!



I knew this would be a town I'd like to live in because there was a bar in this hip trendy town of Ostia in the 7th Century. There are shelves in place and there even looks to be like a cooler bucket. This place gives you peace from the daily hustle and bustle of Roma. Hours spent mazing through the ruins really beat me up but well worth a sunny Saturday afternoon walking through a town built before Christ. 

Thursday, March 7, 2013

From the Darkness Comes the Light

As I am sitting in class currently thinking about my troubles God slaps me in my face as a gentleman walks in my classroom, the same student that I saw yesterday in my class whom I thought was being rude sleeping in class in the front row, walks in with a blind cane.

All my worries washed away as I thought of this man's daily struggle and I am inspired by his strength to attend school. He sat in the front and struggled to enter his password for his computer. He struggled for 10 minutes, 5 minutes longer than I would take throwing my computer across the room. He records the lesson and navigates on the Internet. I could only imagine his patience, his long dark walks in the city and his morning and nights are no different. He can never drive, his relationships are limited to people who are truly accepting. There are no sunrises and sunsets, but HE IS the sunshine in the many lives he doesn't even know he touches as he is to me.

Sometimes you think that life is too difficult, your problems you think you can't handle. Your mind and heart is full of worries then God slaps you across the face and says appreciate each day, the friends and family you have, even if the numbers are small. Appreciate your eyes and the legs you have that you have an EASY life. And if life seems difficult close you eyes and lay down for 15 minutes and think how much life could be worse. Now get up take the breath you are given and keep it movin' because life is to beautiful too keep worrying.

I look forward to seeing the sunshine in my class, especially on these dark rainy days.

Monday, February 25, 2013

Class, Culture, Clubbing


Went with a couple of my class peers to a play Gabriele d'Annunzio, about a famous poet and solider of Italy. We were invited by a older student in our class, whom was invited by one of his work colleagues. He was from Florida, out of all places and I am inspired by this older man who still has the courage to learn a new language, teach in another country and experience new things.  We went to the Teatro Nazionale. We sat second row and paid only 10 euros with our discount.   It was a great play from what I could understand. I had a bit of a summary through the theater playbill.  It is much easier to read Italian then to understand considering that in any language. The main character portrayed D'Annunzio very well as he was bald and had the signature mustache of the late poet . The passion and hand gestures gave us students some insight of what they might be discussing when words blurred together.  But it was easy to figure out the main plot, as this was an Italian play, women and love! Of course the main character dealt with sex, mistresses and love, or this wouldn't be a play about an Italian man. The lighting and back ground really caught my attention. 



There was a 19th century DJ creating all the sounds and music with a backdrop of an oversized picture frame outlining him, a chandelier overhead and books to prop his keyboard and turning tables. He played multi instruments that I could not even recognize. I  pictured this DJ at a nightclub in Miami somewhere as it really grabbed one's attention.







After the play we headed next door for some delicious pizza. But let me shine some light on some of the night scene in Roma that I experience after the classy part of the night I had. Of course I haven't seen all the nightlife but from what I have experienced past three weekends, me likey! First off, one does not go out to the club here at 11:00pm or 12:00pm or 1:00am for that matter. 2:00/3:00am is more like it. The "guest list" is on average opened until 2:45am. I mean, crap I'm in bed by that time often in Florida nowadays. At first you think to yourself, this is late I don't like it, but you quickly adjust to the Roma lifestyle and PARTY ON! You preparty until 1:00/1:30am and head out. By the time you hit the club no need to buy drinks you're half way to your morning hangover. But I do believe this is why all clubs often charge both male and FEMALE (how dare they) a cover charge because many people do not buy many drinks inside. The cover ranges from 5-15€ but drinks are a little overpriced being from 5-10€ a drink. Saturday night for the first time I took the night bus or I should call it BB (boozin bus). I felt I was on the Later Gator (free bus service in Gainesville, FL) back in college. Everyone was drunk, tired and sweaty but everyone had one hell of a night.  I arrive home on average 5:30am and sleep until 12:30/1pm. Do I feel guilty sleeping in so late because I would normally be on the beach that time? No because I know I'm going to do it all over again tonight.  Festa tempo!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Happy Hour


 Yesterday I went to my first Apertivo. Its equivalent-like event is happy hour in the States. But here one pays around 10-20€ for a small buffet of italian food and any drink on the restaurant's menu. Great deal since a cost for a drink is around 7-9 Euros and they make the drinks strong unlike the water-downed drinks for happy hour Americans are use to. I ordered an Italian Long Island Ice Tea. I know what you're thinking LIIT, yuck I drank those at 18, but it was delicious! Would I have more than 1 maybe 2 holy hangover no!   Most Italians use Apertivo as a social hour for some bites then have dinner later but the food is enough to fill ones even big belly.  Typical food found are pizzas, eggplant with a sort of topping, meatballs, spinach balls, pasta of course, baked zucchini, cheese potatoes and all sorts of "get in my belly" goodies.  To find an apertivo near you, just walk the streets of Roma and look for apertivo signs or just google it!

NOM NOM NOM

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Sciopero! Sciopero!


Sciopero! Sciopero! A word one gets to know quickly when one lives in Roma. Strike! Strike! Is all to familiar here. I've been in Italy for just a little over 2 weeks and have already experienced by first Strike. So, today as I attempted to take the metro to my italian classes, the entrance was closed. I already had an idea as many have warned me about this strikes but I thought the strikes were only for busses.  I live near Termini, the main metro and train station. Think of it as Grand Central or Port Authority in NYC shutting down for a few hours. No big deal! Right? I mean there were numerous tourists standing around confused and without luck trying to find someone who speaks english. They had suitcases and worried faces that they wouldn't make their flight or train. I helped a young man stating that it's a strike and common in Italy. I wish I could have helped in some way more but I was running late for my own class and had to figure out what my next step would be. 


Luckily the small amount of Italian I know I somehow managed to read the Advisor and speak with a Italian of what was the matter. A strike was occurring and it was to end at 2:00pm. I was running late for class and decided to walk to the next station that was roughly 10 minutes away. My thoughts came over me. No warning, no international signs to help the tourists, what was this strike about. Did it accomplish anything? A matter of fact it did. It made tourists confused, workers late, gave the metro employees a day off and gave me a wonderful brisk walk to another station. I laughed my way to the next station Cavour, thinking how there ever was a Roman empire when there are strikes as often as pizzerias. Although if this happened in US, especially NYC, all hell would break loose and I'd be the one to open the flood gates, but we're in Italy. See everything with the glass half full is my mode. I mean I wasn't worried I was late because everyone is going to be late. So if I was a worker I'm getting paid and get a break to arrive late because some Union decides they want Tuesday afternoon off, so be it. My professor stated to me that the strikes often happen on Friday. Even better! Strolling to work in 1-2 hours late is my kind of Friday. I wonder how effective these strikes are. I think we should implement them more in the US. Gather your co-workers pick a date that works best for everyone to have off, strike and enjoy your day off. I like you Romans, who know how to live.

Enough dreaming. Roma has two metro lines A and B. They are usually efficient and easy way to get around the city. Today, the metro was pleasantly empty for once. There were seats empty as you can see. Normally, when you take the metro in Roma, its packed more than the latinos pack their luggages with saran wrap when they travel to South America.   Hooray for strikes!

Side Note: Passes, Gypsies, Crazies.

Keep your metro pass at all times with you. Because the "metro police" will do random checks at the entrances and exits to see if you have paid. I have already been checked to see if I was a paying costumer.  And THIS is what they are worried about but to hell with getting you on time to where you need to be. There are monthly passes that you can purchase. But wait, another obstacle. They are not for 30 days from where you purchased it, because that would be too easy. Its for each month of the year. So buy early and save later!  You can only purchase them at small stores (where magazines or tobacco are sold). They do not sell at the normal machines, why you ask? Because they quickly run out of them. There are only a limited amount and you must buy them preferable at the end of the month or right in the beginning and hope you be so lucky to obtain one.

Gypsies, well they're everywhere. Not just in Roma but around the world but it's something to be addressed. Don't look at them and don't look at their children. Keep your bags close and don't ever let your guard down. I dodge a gypsy at least once a day crossing streets to not get spit on if I don't give them MY own hard working money.

Crazies. I think America shipped some crazies over to Europe to let them deal with the ever growing population. Past week, I have walked by several American homeless crazies. Am I being insensitive? How do I know they're American? Easy if you dare to even lock eyes with one, it will send off their aliens in their head and they shall condemn you to hell, tell you to fuck off followed by every curse word in the english language, ask you what are you doing in your life etc. etc.  Are they crazy? Absolutely! They talk to themselves into the window reflections screaming, spilling whatever drink they may have on the sidewalk or perhaps if you're lucky on you or your shoes.  So as you can see, its an obstacle course to often walk the streets in Roma, but like I said, look at it as a half full glass, entertainment and make sure you know what you're doing with your life because some stranger just might shift the alien in your head as he condemns you to hell. God speed through the streets of Roma!